Tag: LGBTQ+

  • Onir Highlights Struggles of Queer Narratives in Cinema

    Onir Highlights Struggles of Queer Narratives in Cinema

    The National Award-winning director, known for films like ‘My Brother… Nikhil’, ‘I Am’, ‘Bus Ek Pal’, ‘Shabd’, and ‘Kuchh Bheege Alfaaz’, even invested his own insurance money to fund his latest film, which is presented by filmmaker Deepa Mehta…writes Sukant Deepak

    Filmmaker Onir has long explored themes of ‘identity’ in his work, particularly LGBTQ+ issues, and complex human relationships, topics largely neglected by mainstream Hindi cinema.

    His latest film, ‘We Are Faheem and Karun’, shot in the breathtaking Gurez Valley of Kashmir, had its world premiere at the recent Dharamshala International Film Festival (DIFF).

    The film features a largely local cast and tells the story of Karun, a young security officer from southern India stationed in the remote Gurez Valley, and Faheem, a Kashmiri man he meets at a checkpoint.

    The movie depicts the doomed romance that follows between the two men.

    However, Onir laments that queer narratives are often not given the attention they deserve.

    “In this heteronormative world, these stories are sidelined. Finance becomes a major issue, and there’s a clear division — ‘our’ stories vs. ‘their’ stories. While some major studios may dabble in tokenism with a single gay film, there’s still a lack of maturity in decision-making spaces — and among audiences. It’s no surprise that we have to keep submitting our films to queer festivals,” he tells IANS.

    The National Award-winning director, known for films like ‘My Brother… Nikhil’, ‘I Am’, ‘Bus Ek Pal’, ‘Shabd’, and ‘Kuchh Bheege Alfaaz’, even invested his own insurance money to fund his latest film, which is presented by filmmaker Deepa Mehta.

    Sharing that his desire to make a sequel to ‘I Am’ — titled ‘We Are’, to celebrate the landmark 2018 Supreme Court verdict decriminalising homosexuality, eventually led to ‘We Are Faheem & Karun’, he recalls that the movie was originally conceived as an anthology with four stories — gay, lesbian, trans, and bisexual.

    However, the director found that each story worked better on its own, giving birth to his current project.

    Shot in the stark yet stunning Gurez Valley, Kashmiri actors were chosen deliberately.

    “Representation matters. For queer stories, we need more queer voices behind the camera. Similarly, in this film, it’s important that the community is represented by people from there. In Hindi cinema, non-Kashmiris often portray people from the region, not to mention the one-dimensional depictions. The film is in Kashmiri because I did not want to indulge in tokenism, adding a few words in accented Kashmiri to show authenticity,” says Onir, who believes the Valley holds immense untapped talent, though it can be challenging to get women in front of the camera.

    Reflecting on the role of ‘identity’ in his work, he stresses that when one’s identity is ignored, one becomes more aware of other marginalised communities.

    “Being queer doesn’t limit your empathy — it expands it. Even in ‘I Am’, not all stories were solely about queer identity,” he says.

    Now, the filmmaker, who co-wrote his memoir (along with his sister) ‘I Am Onir and I Am Gay’ hopes to explore more Kashmiri stories, not necessarily tied to the region’s conflict.

    Mir Salman, who plays the lead role, believes that the movie will help break stereotypes about Kashmiri actors.

    “I am confident this film will challenge perceptions. Also, Kashmiri actors need to work hard to expand their range, improve language skills, and break barriers,” he says.

    Sana, who plays Mir’s mother, relates to her character’s instinct to protect her child.

    “I have two sons of the same age, and a mother’s first instinct is always to protect her children. Many asked if a mother in the Kashmiri countryside would react the way my character does to her son being gay. My answer is yes — geography does not define a mother’s instinct,” she concludes.

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  • How parenting can support LGBTQ+ child

    How parenting can support LGBTQ+ child

    Give them space to express themselves. Let them dress, however, they want to. Let them express themselves as they desire. Be mindful of what terminologies, pronouns, and names you are using…reports Asian Lite News

    The relationship between parents and children is one of the most endearing that we have ever witnessed in our lives. With different life events, you ride an emotional roller coaster. And it can be tough to understand your children at times, just as it can be difficult for them to understand their parents.

    Parents always want the best for their children, but in this rapidly changing world, it can be tough to keep up. It becomes harder for parents to provide the emotional support that their children require. Especially if they are the parents of a child who is homosexual, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer (LGBTQ).

    As a parent to understand and approach LGBTQ youth confront a variety of problems that their parents may find difficult to comprehend and address, Archana Singhal, Counselor and Family Therapist, Founder of Mindwell Counsel, and Member of – the Counsellors Council of India and WICCI NPWC; suggest some ways parents can emotionally support their LGBTQ+ Child.

    Be mindful of the language you use when talking about LGBTQ+ Community: The child always observes the way their parents react towards the LGBTQ community and this determines whether they would open up to their parents about their identity or not. Openly showing your support towards queer identity would help the child in feeling accepted.

    Support them no matter what label they use: there are times when kids change their label more than once after coming out as LGBTQ+. You should support that because changing labels doesn’t mean that you would dismiss their identity or orientation. You should support them irrespective of their identity or orientation

    Look out for Bullies: In school, LGBTQ+ youth are often targeted for being different. Therefore, look out for your kids, and if you feel like they are being bullied take action and reach out to their teachers or counsellor. You might start noticing declining grades, sudden shifts in nature, and unexplained absences from school.

    Give them space: Give them space to express themselves. Let them dress, however, they want to. Let them express themselves as they desire. Be mindful of what terminologies, pronouns, and names you are using.

    Ask them what they want: As a parent, it might become difficult to figure out what they want. Therefore, talk to them. Ask them what they are feeling, how they’re doing, and what would make them feel supported.

    Show them that you love them: Sometimes for LGBTQ+ Youth coming out to their parents is the scariest part for them. Henceforth, show them that you love them and you care about them.

    Try to learn the facts: Try to clear out the misconceptions and learn the facts. It will show them that you are trying to understand them.

    Encourage Healthy Relations: Dating is something kids feel awkward talking to their parents about. Therefore, try to be open with them. Let them know what healthy relationships are and encourage them. As unhealthy relationships can be misleading.

    Seek Support: It’s understandable if you are feeling confused and helpless, but remember that your child is having more difficulty than you. Therefore try to seek help! Talk to a counsellor or someone who has gone through the same thing as you.

    Try to Understand what you yourself are feeling: When a child comes out to their parents, it’s understandable that you feel a rush of conflicting emotions. You might feel scared for your child because of the potential discrimination that they might go through. This all can cause you a lot of stress. Therefore, take help mentally.

    This Pride Month, be the supporting parent and be glad that your child felt safe “coming out” to you as an LGBTQ+ person. Be a community ally and assist your child in every way you can. This will be difficult for both you and your child. However, this will bring you closer to your child and make them feel accepted.

    Many LGBTQ+ youth believe that if they have their parents on their side, they can overcome any obstacle!

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